I, like hundreds of thousands of people around the world, find nudism to be a fun, relaxing, freeing, calming, incredibly soothing and liberating lifestyle.
But one thing it cannot do is to cure loneliness.
The only way to cure loneliness is by having friends.
Friends are supposed to support each other, care for each other and share the same interests, hobbies etc.
However, the older you get, the more difficult making new friends gets.
And once you become a nudist, you get stuck in limbo – you don’t know how to make new nudist friends and you don’t know if your existing friends will accept and join your lifestyle.
Just like in every other facet of life, having a friend join you in your lifestyle makes it doubly pleasing.
If you’re a practicing nudist with a best or long-time friend who is not a nudist, and has no experience with the lifestyle, you may consider introducing this friend.
How?
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First, though, you need to figure out whether said friend is open minded and adventurous or a traditionalist conservative. If its the latter, stay clear, that relationship is doomed. If you fear there’s a significant risk that he’ll unfriend you if he knows you’re a nudist, then you’re probably best off not telling him about nudism at all. If you do tell him about nudism and he responds positively, then it is almost certain that he will also respond positively to hearing that you’re a nudist, so there should be no issue.
Now, if your friend is open minded and adventurous, first broach the subject of nudism. Just simply, mention nudism as a natural part of a conversation that’s generally about something else, and see how your friend reacts when you mention the nudism.
Or you can refer to the many different news stories about nudism that come up every week and see your friend’s reaction.
If the friend comes up with reactions like “eww, that is disgusting” or “these guys are perverts” etc, then drop the matter.
But, if he or she is positive about it, then after a few days, let them know that you are a nudist.
It is best to inform your friend of this fact after you have known your friend for some time, especially if the friend is a girl. Otherwise, (s)he may have the wrong idea and think that you are trying to pick her/him up. Just tell him/her that you’re a nudist, or enjoy practicing nudism, what you get out of the experience, and what your favourite nudist venues and activities are.
Do not act shy, embarrassed, or nervous when you tell your friend about your participation in nudism. This can signal to your friend that nudism is something dirty, and to be ashamed of, and that you actually feel guilty when you do this sort of thing.
Nudism is a positive life changing experience. Its not something dirty, something twisted or some fetish that you have to be ashamed of.
You have to talk to your friend and explain all the misconceptions around nudism – like the primary misconceptions that it is about sex or that it is about exhibitionism or that it is only for homosexuals.
Be sure to explain that nudism is about the natural aspect of nudity, rather than the sexual aspect, and that overt sex is not condoned; that the activities that happen at a nudist venue are no different from the activities that happen in a clothed venue, except the participants don’t wear clothing, and that it’s not a sexually charged atmosphere.
Point out that nudism is for everybody, irrespective of gender, sexual identity, race, color, religion, age, or beauty.
Once that is done, the only thing left is to ask if he or she would like to join you.
If your friend is undecided the first time you ask him/her, and, after a time (say a month) doesn’t bring the subject up again, this likely means that either (s)he got preoccupied with other thoughts and forgot, or actually doesn’t want to try it, but isn’t saying so. You can try asking him/her again if (s)he has made a decision of whether or not (s)he wants to give nudism a try. If your friend still says they can’t decide, it’s probably best to take that as a ‘no’ and not bring up the subject again.
But if the decision is yes, well, then that just makes life so much better and fulfilling. Friends make everything better.
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